Co-parenting after a divorce can be a challenge for all parents to navigate, but it becomes worse if you have to co-parent following a hostile divorce. It can become more complex if you fear that your ex is a narcissist.
When you have a narcissistic co-parent, he or she may do things to test your boundaries or punish you.
What are the signs of narcissism?
People with narcissistic personality disorder have a powerful sense of self-importance. They may behave arrogantly or believe they have something unique above others. Generally, narcissists will also take advantage of a situation and manipulate others to get what they want. They want others to admire and envy them and when people do not give them what they want, they may react angrily.
How can you make co-parenting easier?
When co-parenting with a narcissist, you need to set clear boundaries. Do not let your ex control the situation or change the rules. You should have a clear parenting plan that outlines when you pick up or drop off the kids. You should also include how the two of you will handle extra-curricular activities and medical care. If your ex-partner tries to bend the rules or upset you, remain calm and do not give in to insults. Limit your communication and always take time before you respond.
Remember that having a legally binding parenting plan gives you something to rely on. If your ex tries to push your boundaries or change the parenting plan, you can count on the court to help you.