In 2019, according to U.S. News and World Report, the California divorce rate was 6.5%. This made the state the 10th lowest in the nation for divorces.
Divorce is a deeply personal and emotional journey, and its effects ripple far beyond the bounds of the immediate family. One aspect of divorce that often remains overlooked is the impact it can have on one’s relationships with social circle, which some call community divorce.
Changing dynamics with friends
As the divorce process unfolds, you may find that your relationships with friends start to shift. Some friends who were once a significant part of your life may become less available or supportive. This can be disheartening, as you might expect that friends would rally around you during difficult times. However, people’s discomfort with divorce and their own discomfort with change can lead to withdrawal.
Unease among married friends
The dynamics with your married friends can also undergo a transformation. You may begin to feel a sense of unease when spending time with them, especially if you are part of a close-knit group. Some married friends may not know how to handle your new status, while others might have concerns about taking sides in the divorce.
Mutual friends and their dilemma
Mutual friends that you and your former spouse shared before the divorce may find themselves in a delicate situation. They may feel stuck between their loyalty to both of you and may try to avoid taking sides. This can create an uncomfortable atmosphere when you all gather, leaving you feeling isolated or like a third wheel in your own social circle.
A community divorce goes beyond the legal and emotional aspects of divorce. It involves navigating changes in your relationships with friends. During this time of transition, it is important to seek out sources of support and connection. Consider joining support groups within your church, community or workplace that cater to individuals going through divorce. These groups offer a safe space to share your experiences and emotions with others who can relate.