One of the first things some people who are about to divorce do is to start living in separate houses. The thought of living together a minute longer may be too much to bear, and so one or both of them decide to live apart from that moment on.
Yet, this may not always be such an appealing option. Perhaps neither wants to move out because they both still want to live with their children. Or maybe they fear moving out will put them at a disadvantage when settling the divorce or custody. For others, it is just a matter of affordability.
You can still share, but be careful how you do it
Many couples continue to live together until the divorce is through. Some find it extremely difficult, while others find it much more manageable. What you must do is to separate yourselves to some degree, though. That means no more sleeping in the same bed. If you only have a one-bedroom place, then someone needs to go on the couch or even the floor.
Try to separate the house into zones. Somewhere like the kitchen might need to remain a communal zone. But, try to find a space, however small, for each of you to keep their things and to have their own space away from the other. You should also separate your expenses and have a clear understanding of how household financial responsibilities will be divided.
The more you can separate things, the easier it may be for you and any children you have to come to terms with the fact that the marriage is truly over. You need to be especially careful not to send mixed messages to each other or the kids, by sitting snuggled up on the couch, or falling into bed together after one too many glasses of wine.
There is a lot to consider when divorcing, and legal guidance can help you make informed decisions.
